On Dealing With My Own Personality

June 1, 2016

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I used to think that I was more of an extrovert* rather than an introvert. Maybe because the society somehow favored the former as the 'more acceptable' type of personality. True, I love being surrounded by friends, or some other people I don’t even know. Heck I even joined a lot of organizations back in college. I thought having a lot of friends would mean a happier life. Well, it kinda did. But after college, it was mostly… just me.

Don’t get me wrong. I still like hanging out with a handful of my friends (yup, I've narrowed them down to a few who's worth keeping), but because of my situation, I had no choice but to adapt with what I have… usually alone in my room, binge-watching TV series, goes out just to take a bath or eat. My family noticed it too, and even talked to me about it. And so I did my best to be more outgoing and forced myself to get out of my room more often (which lasted for, like, a day or two), but eventually went back to my old routine. I guess they realized that there’s nothing they could do about it since they never asked me again on how I’ve ‘secluded’ myself and ‘made my own world’. Unpopular opinion: being alone isn't too bad. It feels good to be with your own thoughts from time to time. Emphasis on "from time to time" because too much of something won't do any good.

It was until late last year when I realized that it wasn’t the company I really wanted, but the feeling that I wasn’t alone. It just gave me less time to focus on the negative things. There were some days where I drown myself in sadness and there are some where I feel okay, not great, but a little less sad. And as an emotional wreck with a lot of free time, it led me to this online Myers-Briggs Type Indicator of 16Personalities. I remember taking this test a long time ago but forgot the results so I took it again anyway, and the results were… *drum roll*…. INFP-TIntroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Prospecting & Turbulent.

description of INFP-T personality
INFP Personality 1 of 2
INFP Personality 2 of 2

The website also includes the strengths and weaknesses of the INFP-T's personality type and I'll point out how each of them reflects mine and my thoughts on them:


  • Idealistic True. Although I don't consider myself an entirely optimistic person.
  • Seek and Value Harmony DEFINITELY TRUE. I am easily bothered by conflicts, especially when people dislike me (which, I think, is also a weakness).
  • Open-Minded and Flexible True. This one's probably my favorite INFP-T trait. I love the spontaneity and the being not-so-judgmental thing.
  • Very Creative  I do have some skills but there's always a room for improvement so I guess I have to work harder to be worthy of removing that strikethrough. ;-)
  • Passionate and Energetic Also true. Once I'm into something, I try to do my very best to go after it. 
  • Dedicated and Hardworking "Knowing that what they are doing is meaningful gives people with this personality type a sense of purpose and even courage when it comes to accomplishing something they believe in." Still working on it, but I'd like to think that is is true.


  • Too Idealistic You can never have too much of something.
  • Too Altruistic True. Sometimes I tend give more than what I have, which in turn drains me physically and/or emotionally.
  • Impractical Not entirely true.
  • Dislike Dealing With Data GUILTY. Often thinks of the happy ending without thinking through the details of how I'd get to it.
  • Take Things Personally True. I value others' opinions waaaaay too much which sometimes make my emotions get ahead of me. Hoping to work this out soon.
  • Difficult To Get To Know Also true. Often misjudged by my misleading personality.

The over-thinker side of me says that no one even cares and that you guys might think I’m just an anti-social freak. But this is step one. Getting to know my own personality is a very complex idea but also a very interesting one. It is the beginning of embracing the idea of myself as a perfectly imperfect human being and I think everyone should, too. Acknowledging your every aspect whether it's a positive or negative trait is a step closer to self-improvement.

Aside from the strengths and weaknesses, you could also explore other characteristics of your personality type in terms of relationship, friendships, career paths, etc.

Now I'm curious about yours! If you haven't taken the Myers Briggs, you can take this free personality test and let me know. 

*Extrovert or extravert? Yup, I got confused, too.

Disclosure: This is not a sponsored post. Just me... oversharing.


  1. We got the same personality type: INFP-T! Although I never once thought that I was an extrovert, hehe.

    Love, Richel. | Richel Goes Places

    1. We belong to the few 4%. Yaaay! Hahaha. I once "classified" myself an extrovert just bc I thought that it was the "normal" personality. But then again, I guess it all boils down to accepting who you truly are. ;-)

  2. I tried this test for the first time when our Human Behavior In Organization professor made it as an assignment because we couldn't tell her what type of personality we all have. Although I forgot my result. As long as I can remember, it was indeed my personality. I was in awe how it was accurate in some ways. I might as well try the test again. :)

    Augustin Ra | Indie Spirit

    1. Hi, Augustin!
      Yeah, I really think you should! There's no harm in trying again. Plus it's super fun to see how accurate it can be. ;-)

    2. I am 'The Protagonist' (ENFJ-A). :)

    3. That's nice! ;-) Did it match your personality too?

  3. I'm and INFJ!!! I felt happy reading this post, I'm happy to find someone embracing her personality!! It's because I feel like a lot of people try to be something they're not. I'm glad I found your blog, Da! :)

    Chrizzia xx / http://www.thistledsoul.net/

    1. Hi Chrizzia! Yeah, I think so, too. Probably because of these imposed "norms" by the society. If I remember it correct, INFJs are like, less 1% of the population, right? Quite unique! ;-) Thank you and I hope to see you around!

  4. nice to know that we have a lot of similarities, Da.:) I also have an INFP-T friend whom I love to have a deep conversation with. hehe Happy to read this blog post. :)

    1. Hi, Jonine! Thank youuuu. Glad you liked this post! ;-)


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